New relationship: Should I stay or should I go?
December 28, 2012 7:26 PM Subscribe
Should I keep working on this relatively new relationship, or throw in the towel?
posted by anonymous to human relations (27 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I wish I was better at knowing when to work on things in a relationship, or call it quits.
I often find myself putting in a lot of effort trying to fix things.
It's hard for me to think clearly about what to do, and I question my decisions endlessly.
I am going through this with a guy I am dating right now.
I really like him and I think he's a great person. But we are having a really rough time and a lot of conflict, and the relationship is only a month old.
We started a relationship about a month ago after dating for a few weeks. Before we decided to make things official, I went on a Mexican beach holiday. There I slept with someone I met. I didn't think it was a big deal because I was not in a relationship, I was still getting to know my now boyfriend.
Well, when I got back from the trip I told my guy. Because I thought it was the right thing to do. He was upset but said he would get over it and we decided to start the relationship anyway. I felt guilty about what happened but wanted to move forward with my guy and be exclusive.
That was about a month ago. Since then, we have been having lots of fights -- big fights about every week or so -- mostly him getting jealous and paranoid and he always brings up what happened on the trip. He also told me that he doesn't feel the same way about me as he did before I went on my trip.
And for some reason I cannot bring myself to break things off with this guy. I am holding out hope that we can make things work, because I want them to work out so bad.
But it's just not working it seems.
I don't think there should be this much fighting in a new relationship and I don't think he has forgiven me for what happened on my trip.
I need to make a decision.