(A AND NOT B) is okay for bachelor parties and weddings, right?
December 26, 2012 12:01 PM Subscribe
Bachelor party - can I invite people who aren't invited to the wedding?
posted by Tehhund to human relations (42 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I'm getting married in May and planning a March bachelor party in another city (not sure if it matters, but none of the potential bachelor party invitees live where the party is happening so any attendees would have to travel to the bachelor party). We're planning on having 200-ish people attend the wedding & reception, so it's not small, but due to space constraints I can't invite every single friend I'd like to invite. Everyone (me, my fiancee, both sets of parents) are being judicious to keep the number of invitees down, so this is fine by me.
But I would like to invite all my friends to the bachelor party, even those who aren't invited to the wedding. I think the party is a better time to catch up anyway. But I'd like to avoid confusion, so I have 2 questions:
1) Is inviting people to a bachelor party and not inviting them to a wedding a faux pas? I don't think so, but I'd like to check. A friend of mine did this a few years ago (invited people to the bachelor party who weren't invited to the wedding) and it seemed to be fine, but his wedding was much smaller (30 people) so I'm not sure if the rules are the same here.
2) How should I inform the bachelor party invitees that they aren't all invited to the wedding? I thought something generic in the invitation email might make it clear: "Due to space constraints, Tehhund can't invite everyone to the wedding, so he is hoping to see lots of you at the bachelor party."