Are my concerns valid/ Should I just ask him out?
December 26, 2012 7:56 AM Subscribe
I want to ask a guy out. I have some concerns and am wondering if I shouldn't. Please give me your advice.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (30 answers total)
I've developed a crush on one of my coworkers. I may leave my seasonal job soon, and when I do, I'd like to ask him out. I don't know him well at all right now, but I'd like to get to know him. But I have some concerns:
1) He's probably younger than me and while I don't know him well, I think we are in different places in life in terms of school and where we're headed in the next few years. I'm early 20s, he's late teens. This is my biggest concern.
(If I don't expect this to be a LTR, does this matter?)
2) We don't seem to have a lot in common on surface.. we have no mutual friends, didn't go to school together, are different ethnicities. People tend to date those they are similar to, right? I don't have much dating experience... but dating seems easiest with people you already know?
Despite these concerns, I'd really like to ask him out. I'd like to note, this is the first time I feel bold enough to even consider asking a guy out! If he's also interested, I think it would be fun going out together.
Should I hold my tongue, or ask a guy out for the first time?? Please do let me know if you think this is a bad idea.