How best to communicate with doctors?
December 25, 2012 7:50 PM Subscribe
How do you advocate for the best care from three states away?
posted by anonymous to health & fitness (9 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
My father-in-law has been in the hospital for the last two weeks due to complications from gall bladder removal. Throughout the process, my husband has gotten conflicting and disjointed information about what has been actually has been going on. Partially due to the fact that his father is heavily medicated and his mother is extremely histrionic, everything we hear has been filtered through the crazy straw of confusion. We are five hours away and during the holidays we were able to be at the hospital to try and sort things out, but we've had to return home. On the drive back we received three hysterical calls from his mother claiming all sorts of madness with tiny seeds of truth and efforts to get her to think clearly and calm down only made things worse.
We tried to get the doctors to call us with new information, but my father-in-law has at least three different specialists and god knows how many hospitalists working on him. They don't seem to talk to each other and only tell their patient the bare minimum. He's scheduled to be moved to a different hospital "some time soon." Who can we call and talk to so we can be included in the loop? We don't want to cut his mom out of the loop, but we'd love to find a way to get the information without the crazy filter.
Everyone is getting insanely frustrated with the whole thing and its not helpful to hear that he's gonna "get his kidneys chopped out cause they keep bleeding!!" What steps can we take to add sanity and stability back to the process?