My big girl panties are pinching
December 25, 2012 6:56 PM Subscribe
I should have gone the no-contact route a coupe of years ago when he told me that he only saw me as a friend, but I struggled through and we got back to good friend status. Recently the old feelings have resurfaced. Do I have to "use my words" again or is it okay to do a slow fade?
posted by Neneh to human relations (12 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I almost tagged this with jesuschristnotagain.
In the past few months he's been extra attentive and my mostly-dormant crush flared back up. (I was on temporary dating hiatus last fall and particularly susceptible.) Trust me when I say that he's not interested -- he's had multiple opportunities to make a move, recently remarked on our long-ago "just friends" conversation, and a few days ago I saw him kissing another woman. I really don't want to have to have that crazy awkward conversation with him again and plan to get real busy come the new year with work projects, exercise classes, getting together more often with other friends, a drawing or language class, and definitely dating again.
What I think I'm looking for is your perspectives on the validity of choosing an indirect strategy over clear communication. Any advice on how to stop being a pseudo-girlfriend would be great as well.
We're middle-aged, if that matters.