Feeling ignored by my loved ones.
December 25, 2012 12:57 PM Subscribe
How do I deal with feeling ignored?
posted by Rosengeist to Human Relations (19 answers total) 18 users marked this as a favorite
Christmas is a bit notorious for causing people to feel ignored, this year has been the first time I've genuinely felt I wasn't on people's minds.
This year in my family, I was kind of tasked with buying most people's gifts, with making a lot of the food, with taking care of a lot of the holiday in general. As long as everyone is happy, this is largely fine by me. The problem is, all the work I put in doesn't seem to have made any difference, there has still been a lot of shouting, little spats, and people asking me to take care of multiple things at once.
Gift giving is usually a part of the holiday I'm fond of, but this year was kind of hard to deal with. See I bought the majority of the gifts for people to give to everyone else. I haven't heard anyone thank me for making sure they had the gifts they wanted to give. I don't want a reward or anything, just to have them acknowledge I helped them out. The thing that really kind of hurts is that my Christmas gifts feel like after thoughts, socks and a pair of pajamas. I feel like people only remembered I was there last minute.
I feel bad complaining about this, especially on the holidays when some people are totally alone and don't get anything. It's just, this happens in a lot of areas of my life, and this is the culmination of it all. I often feel like me efforts to be friendly, kind or helpful are ultimately meaningless. I seem to hear about parties after the fact from friends, I'm not often invited, I don't seem to even be someone people remember, even when I try to help them out. My efforts to make others happy, or help them don't seem to be noticed or have much affect.
I don't know what to do to become more noticeable to people...I just feel like I'm kind of inconsequential to the people I care about. Any ideas for how to deal with this?