LGBT-friendly doctors in Ithaca, NY?
December 18, 2012 1:03 PM Subscribe
My new doctor and I are a horrible match. Clearly the answer is "find a different doctor", but how do I make that work? (Bonus points: recommend an LGBT-emphasis-on-the-T friendly doctor in or near Ithaca NY. Willing to drive as far as Syracuse or Binghamton if they're sufficiently awesome.)
posted by dorque to health & fitness (16 answers total)
I had my first appointment (for a physical) with my new primary care doctor today and it was a disaster. (When my health insurance changed, I picked a practice at random from the insurance's list and she was the first doctor at that practice who had an appointment available.)
- She shamed me for being fat and assumed it's because I don't exercise, despite the fact that I reported getting >7 hours of vigorous exercise per week on my intake charts;
- Once corrected, she was dismissive of the weight I've successfully lost so far;
- She just about came out and said my (quite competent, tyvm) mental health providers were quacks for having me on "all these medications";
- When I told her I was sleeping 12+ hours a day, but it was such poor quality sleep that I didn't feel rested at all, she didn't seem at all interested in figuring out why and just told me to take melatonin;
- And this is not exactly her fault, but the rapport was so bad that I didn't feel comfortable telling her I'm transgender, as a result of which the chest exam and pap smear were hideously unpleasant. I'm seeking top surgery soon and can't imagine her being willing to do the required pre-op physical.
Writing this all down makes it seem so trivial, but the collective result was that I had to spend 10 minutes crying in the parking lot before I could safely drive home. I don't have the emotional wherewithal to go through this every time I try out a new doctor. How do I make sure any new doctor I pick won't be just as bad? Do I just need to toughen up and get over myself?