How to communicate about our feelings?
December 12, 2012 6:08 PM Subscribe
How much should we be talking about our feelings for each other? I love him, and I think he loves me...
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (9 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
My boyfriend and I are both in our early 30s and have been dating for five months. This is the best relationship I've ever been in and the first time I can really imagine a future (marriage, kids, etc.) with someone. I think he feels the same, but I'm not sure. We get along really well, have similar values, and talk about all kinds of things, just not how we feel about each other. We never even discussed our status, he just started calling me his girlfriend at some point. I can tell that he's serious about me and is also interested in a long-term relationship. We've sort of hypothetically discussed children and marriage. After dating for a couple months, I blurted out "I love you" and he sort of mumbled "I love you too", but neither of us have said it since. He acts like he loves me, and he's the kind of person who "shows" more than "tells" in that he doesn't communicate verbally about feelings, and he also tends to be a very private person. I'm wondering whether I should ask him how he feels about me, or just let things come out as they will? I don't know what's "normal" in this kind of situation. It's starting to feel like we're avoiding talking about how we feel about each other, and it feels kind of weird and is making me feel a little insecure. I would like him to be more verbally expressive with his feelings for me, even if he's not ready to say "I love you", but I don't know how to bring this up. (I'm not very verbally expressive of my feelings, either.)