How To Deal With My Parents' Fighting?
December 8, 2012 4:33 PM Subscribe
My parents fight. A lot. My brother is able to drown out the fights somehow and stay neutral. I am not--I get in between the fights and support my mother. And this obviously, does not sit well with my father, who calls me names and tells me he doesn't love me and blames me for fights. What should I do?
posted by rhythm_queen to Human Relations (29 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I can't seem to stop myself from getting involved mostly because I KNOW my father's in the wrong--I support my mother. My mother screams and cries hysterically and I feel the need to support her. I love my father, but he's certainly majorly in the wrong in most of the problems in their marriage. He's overbearing, unappreciative, lethargic, selfish, brooding...My mother's a great wife, but she cracks sometimes.
I find the fights completely anxiety-provoking and make me physically nauseated. I find, though, when I am able to ignore them, that it goes smoother for me--no one tells me they hate me or they'll never talk to me again.
There's a major fight happening right now. I've already interfered and taken some abuse. What should I do? I'm really, really scared.