There is a unisex single-seater bathroom close to my office. Someone has been jerking off in the bathroom, and leaving the ejaculate in the toilet bowl (unflushed) or sometimes also on the seat. Super gross. I want it to stop.
The office where I work is a 8-5 muckity-muck office (upper level management), and I have only ever noticed it when I am working late. It doesn't happen often enough to establish any sort of pattern but it has been happening maybe once or twice a month for the past 4 months. It happened yesterday evening. Yes, I did take a picture. No, I'm not posting it.
There is an elevator near the bathroom, and I can't see the bathroom directly from my office unless I crane my neck, so I don't know if it is someone on my floor, or someone from another floor or building. I do think it is more of a "power" thing than a sexual action directed at me. I have a suspicion about who it is, but I'm not going to accuse anyone of anything (especially something hard to prove without getting all CSI).
I told one other lady at work - her reaction was basically that is NASTY but there wasn't really anything to be done. I'm the only person who has actually seen it (that I know of), besides the janitor, and I don't really want to have a conversation with her about it. I truly just want it to stop and I'm not sure of the steps to take next.
It's such a crazy and disgusting thing that I am afraid nobody will believe me if I "officially" report it. But I'm sick of being "surprised".
Details that may or may not be relevant:
- I am a 40ish year old lesbian in a long-term relationship. Before you ask - I used to date guys, so I know what cum looks like.
- I've worked in this office over 10 years. I am not upper management.
- I have recently been passed over for a big promotion that everyone assumed I would get. (Upper management re-wrote the job description to exclude me.) My boss (who is leaving) has encouraged me to sue for gender and/or sexual orientation discrimination but I'm not going to.
- I am actively looking for another job.
What do you think I should do? Should I contact HR? Just ignore it since I'm leaving soon anyway, and stop using that bathroom? If it happens again, and the HR guy is there, should I show him? (He was here last night but I didn't really know how to approach it.) The HR guy is really the only guy I know it *isn't*, since it happened once last month while he was out of town.