December 6, 2012 8:23 AM Subscribe
How do you get a child to use the 'magic words'?
posted by monkey closet to Human Relations (44 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
We have a lovely 3 1/2 year old daughter. She is generally polite, well-behaved, considerate and we're very proud of her - but she absolutely refuses to say 'please', 'thank-you' etc.
We tried every possible permutation of sanction/reward (she is INCREDIBLY stubborn - even temporary removal of favourite toys, lack of dessert etc. doesn't sway her), before getting the advice that it wouldn't last forever, and as such a good kid she simply wouldn't be able to avoid them in the long term; best to ease off her and avoid letting her build it up.
It has now become a problem at school, though - her teachers insist on it, and have had to withhold various things.
We're sort of at our wits' end; we simply have nothing else to try...