So, your child is in jail, eh? How's that working for you?
December 4, 2012 8:27 PM Subscribe
Guide me through calling the parents of a friend who is in jail.
posted by anonymous to human relations (12 answers total)
I am going to call a friend's parents to get information about my friend, who has been charged with a (non-violent) crime and is in jail. In a letter from the jail, he gave me their number in case we lose contact.
He said that he would be bonded out by this time, but he's not responding to his old email or phone number. So, it may not have happened. Or, it did, and he's somewhere without access to the internet or his old phone.
I have not talked to these parents in about 17 years. Suffice to say, I find this call awkward. What should I say in order to maximize the chances of everyone involved feeling OK about this? I imagine I ask how they're doing, but what do I say about the whole issue with their son being in jail? "I'm sorry he's in jail, and..." I cannot fill in that ellipsis. I can't say that I have anything to offer them beyond "moral support." Yet something seems off about just saying, "Hey, that sucks. So, where is he now and how do I get a hold of him?"
Also, what should I avoid saying?