How can I get over feeling like I'm not good enough?
December 4, 2012 6:24 PM Subscribe
Due to my dad, I feel like I am stupid and can't do anything right. How can I rebuild my self-confidence?
posted by stedman15 to Human Relations (16 answers total) 21 users marked this as a favorite
As I was growing up and into my 20's until I finally moved out, my dad would treat me like an idiot.
As a kid, I was made to redo chores over and over without any real explanation of what I had done wrong. As I grew up, this transitioned into lengthy lectures before I did anything my dad thought was "important". I worked for his company briefly in my 20's, and my workday basically consisted of me being told in a meandering and discursive way that what I was doing wrong and how I should be doing it. It wrecked my self confidence and left me in a position where I was afraid of doing anything that could backfire or taking any chances in general.
I am now in a job where I objectively know that I am doing fine, maybe even well. But, I always feel like people around think I'm stupid and that they can see all that I'm doing wrong. I'm always afraid of messing things up and being found out. My coworkers and bosses have done nothing to support these feelings. They tell me I'm doing a good job, and I have consistently had new and challenging tasks given to me and succeeded.
How can I get over my feelings of inadequacy and actually start seeing myself as others see me?