Getting excited with my girlfriend
December 2, 2012 9:14 AM Subscribe
I can't seem to get "excited" with thoughts (or bikini pics) of my long distance girlfriend. I am far too young to have issues with this in a general sense and I don't. I can still get turned on by other things, and videos and what not (you get the point). We haven't met yet but we will be meeting in the relative future and something sexual might happen, and probably will.
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I am typically a very anxious person about things, I hype events up in my mind and get nervous and worry about it all, so I think this might be mental. I am pretty certain that I love this girl a lot and the relationship is very serious so far. I just can't seem to get turned on by the thoughts of her, even having sex with her or her naked. I don't know what the problem is, but I think it might be mental.
I'm hoping maybe when we actually meet and I see her or we start kissing or whatever it may be... I get excited and things end up working out. Maybe its because I've never actually seen her nude? I don't know. I've used my imagination with other girls just fine but with her its difficult and it takes a fair amount of physical touching to get me turned on with her.
I'm also very nervous and super insecure about my own body, and the performance anxiety coupled with this is just a disaster. And on top of that I'm a virgin, so it will be my first time EVER kissing a girl and doing anything sexual with a girl. I don't even know how to kiss really (advice on this would also be helpful) and I'm scared I might not be able to satisfy her due to my inexperience. She has been with a few other men but has never gone "all the way" and I have been with no one. I am trying to get in shape before we meet so that I can think a bit less about my body.
Any advice would be really helpful.