How can I get along in a foreign country I don't like?
December 2, 2012 2:33 AM Subscribe
I have moved to a foreign country and am looking for suggestions as to how to get along in the best way possible until I can return to the US. I am a single woman with a professional background.
I came to this country to reconnect with my ancestral roots. I have found the culture and behavior really appalling and irritating on a profound level as well as being sexist at a very deep level.
posted by malach_sadriel to society & culture (27 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
Also many people here think Americans are the cash cow. I am not an "ugly American" and on the contrary spent much time learning about this place and its history, but that is not the same as experiencing it firsthand. This is a very traditional country with a facade of modernity. I always knew that the US was an unusual country but this experience has faced me with exactly how freedom-loving and American I really am.
I have passed through the newbie issues here, have had difficulty learning the language (and not because I can't) and even though I have found an MO here, of sorts, I am constantly appalled by the culture and behavior of many people. And yet, it is my ancestral culture and I cannot reject it entirely.
I have found my energy and will sapped because there are very few like-minded people here that I can connect with. I am generally a very self-reliant person but this is too much.
I have to stay here until I can find work back in the US to reasonably support myself. I have to do this search long distance because I cannot travel back temporarily to do so.
What I am looking for is not so much concrete suggestions like groups to join (although that might be helpful) as attitudes or strategies to employ. To date, the negativity has impinged on my ability to put myself totally into work-seeking.
As I am a mature person with long experience I have already tried many attitude changes, tricks and tips etc., being in nature, etc. Nothing seems to work for long against the constant assault of negative and hard-faced attitude that I see here. It might help to explain that I relocated from Northern California, and a live and let live attitude is my inner wish. Very not possible here, where the smallest thing done is up for analysis and judgment.