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November 30, 2012 6:09 PM Subscribe
How can I increase my exposure to interpersonal aggression in order to get better at handling it?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (19 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a reasonably assertive person, and when I'm expecting conflict I can ice-up and typically handle it pretty well. However, I have what seems to be a relatively intense anxiety response and when I'm caught of guard I have a tendency to really shatter.
I'll have to limit the details, but yesterday I was in a work situation where somebody unexpectedly acted very (verbally) aggressive toward me and I went all 'lights and sirens,' got very shaky, and looked very weak and scattered in front of a lot of people.
I can't allow this to happen again. It seems that exposure to being blind-sided by aggression is the only way to get better at dealing with it. However, for what should be obvious reasons, it's hard to think of ways to manufacture these type of 'caught off guard' aggression situations. Any thoughts? Other suggestions for dealing with this issue?