How can I hide my submissiveness so no one messes with me?
November 29, 2012 9:31 PM Subscribe
How can I overcome submissive traits in a threatening situation? (Not talking oh no there's suddenly a fight... more like constant state of threat like walking down the street of Baghdad.) It has become important for me to "stand my ground," beat others at staring contests, be able to let it slide when others try to intimidate me. Problem is, I'm often the first to look away and easily anxious. By most counts I am very submissive. I have a "dominant personality" but as far as aggression and such I'm submissive naturally. I need to create a dominant front. But how???
posted by hungry hippo to human relations (20 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I tried playing with my body language and facial expressions and I feel ridiculous. I think currently I have better luck with responding to attempts at intimidation with apathy. So rather than forcing a dominant presence I'm having a little luck with responding in a non-intimidated manner. I think it will work even better if I can create some of that initial presence. The stuff I'm finding on this topic is more about bedroom behavior so.... can you advise?