Acquaintance passed away. Do I donate to his preferred charity, despite my concerns?
November 28, 2012 8:26 AM Subscribe
An acquaintance has passed away, and in lieu of flowers, his family is requesting a donation to a religious cause that gives me some concerns. What to do?
posted by evadery to human relations (23 answers total)
A co-worker has passed away. He worked in a different office, and I did not work closely with him, but in my 2.5 years at my company working with him we had a couple good conversations, and in the rare times we worked together we got along well. He was a very nice man, passed away much too soon (in his 50s) and will be missed by all.
He left the company for a new job about 2 years ago, about the same time he was diagnosed with lung cancer. I didn't know he was ill until I found out he passed away this week.
He was a devout Jehovah's Witness, and his family is asking for contributions to Watchtower, which makes me uncomfortable. He never discussed religion with me, but I know he had an uncomfortable run in with a colleague who was divorcing which made her quite uncomfortable. I identify as an atheist who celebrates the cultural aspects of Judaism.
A side note: I do not know if his religion prevented him from getting treatment for the cancer or not, and have read mixed things online about whether this would happen. However, even the possibility of this disappoints me, although I know it is his choice to live by whatever religious code he chooses.
So, do I make a nominal donation to Watchtower, which I know he and his family would have wanted? Or do I make a donation to a cancer charity, which may be viewed as a slap in the face by the family? Or, since we weren't particularly close anyway, should I just not make a donation, as one likely isn't even expected of me anyway? Thoughts on these or any other options would be appreciated.