New house turns out to be next door to registered sex offender. Now what?
November 26, 2012 3:05 PM Subscribe
Moved into a picture perfect suburban neighborhood. Just found out my nice next door neighbor is registered sex offender. How worried should I be? How and when do I talk to my kids?
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So we moved into this nice suburban neighborhood. Friendly people walking their dogs wishing each other good morning etc. I was planning on having our new neighbors over for an open house soon to get to know them better - so far they've mostly been super cool people, coming by to say hi, helping me once or twice when I was doing yard stuff that I needed help with. Idyllic. I've been telling all my friends how nice my new neighbors are.
So yesterday I was checking on the spelling of one neighbor's name because I was writing the family a note, when lo and behold up pops the Google result referencing the dad's sex offender status. There is no date or location on the record, only the crime: lewd/lascivious activity with child under age of 14.
I called the local PD to see if they would share any useful info. I was hoping they would tell me it was... I don't know. Something long ago and unpleasant but maybe not monstrous? Something that would put my mind at ease that whatever it was he did, it wasn't something I need to worry about him doing to my kids. But they wouldn't tell me anything, not even a date or jurisdiction of arrest. It could have been thirty years ago or last year, there's no info.
So... does anyone have any good advice for me?
My kids are little, not yet at an age where they're outside unsupervised. Any thoughts re when they ought to be told to be on particular guard re this neighbor?
Is anyone here involved in law enforcement and have knowledge of the CA 288(a) statute and its application? I understand it can be an enormous range of stuff, ranging from unpleasant to straight up evil, is that right? Anyone have experience with this population? Anyone know if the missing data re date and place suggests it was long ago and/or in a different jurisdiction?
The PD suggested asking the guy about it. I... can't really imagine how that conversation would go? Any thoughts?
From my reading of the statute it appears that prison time is mandatory. Any ideas how I could find out if this guy has a parole officer I could/should talk to? This is in Santa Clara County, CA.
He's been a great neighbor so far and shown no interest in the kids, but they have lots of cute pets that my kids like to engage with. Do I have to tell them to not pet the nice doggie etc? In general, would I do better to get to know their family better or to keep them at longer arms' distance?
Anonymous because I just don't know what the ramifications are to my household and the whole thing is gross and awful and scary and I'm processing and not ready to talk about it with my name on it.