My work/life balance is unhealthy and out of control for a variety of reasons. Help me figure out if this is fixable, or if I need to cut bait and walk - and if I do, how do I keep from letting this happen next time?
I work in the nonprofit field, which is notorious for being unhealthy in a lot of different ways: comparatively low or inconsistent pay, long work hours, dysfunctional office dynamics, and high levels of stress.
When I was hired, my job seemed fantastic. My job description was fairly clear-cut and manageable, working for an organization that I strongly believed in the achievable mission of. It was a salaried full-time position which also had extremely flexible hours, liberal time off, and the ability to work from home a majority of the time, which really worked well with my scheduling needs. Reasonable disability accomodations were granted with a smile. In exchange for this, however, my irregular hours would often stretch into nights and weekends. My boss was a peer of mine, and he took my suggestions seriously; many of them were implemented.
However, this job wound up producing a pretty constant low-grade level of stress - time at home was never fully relaxing, because I might at any moment have to take a phone call, jump on a videoconference, or leap into work, even late at night. Because it was a nonprofit job where everyone was highly passionate, it was generally taken as a point of pride how little time anyone took off. In addition, because a large portion of my job involved networking, particularly over social media, the job itself began to taint some of my non-job friendships and has damaged them. A majority of my current friends are people I met through working at this job. And it rapidly became something that was impossible to leave "at the office" - a lot of "If this fails, the cause I really love will be lost!" mentality.
Fast forward to now. The job and organization fits all the descriptors of a sick system
. The person who hired me has left, and I have a new supervisor who is not abiding by the original terms of my contract and is verbally abusive: I now dread picking up the phone. The mission of the organization is changing to something I don't really care about, with unachievable goals. In theory, this supervisor will be replaced as soon as a new one is hired, but I don't know how long that will take or if I can hold out until then.
The money is nice, but not my only income source or necessary to pay bills. Also, I have medical conditions that are exacerbated by stress, which have been causing me more trouble lately.
But I have also never quit a job before - or spent even one day unemployed. The idea of quitting a job when you don't have another one lined up seems weird and foreign and irresponsible to me. At the same time, though, I know I won't have time to really look for a job for at least a month or so. I also don't know if things would be better at any other job.
What should I do? What is the responsible thing to do? What is the sane thing to do? And does this mean I should get a new job, or leave the nonprofit field entirely?
Nonprofit job is unhealthy physically and mentally. Should I quit, even when I have issues with being unemployed? And if I do, should I change sectors?