Third grade dropout?
November 26, 2012 5:49 AM Subscribe
Should I take my eight (almost nine) year old out of school midyear to alleviate her anxiety?
posted by TreeRooster to human relations (47 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
My eight year old daughter is suffering extreme anxiety and or depression centered on school, and extending to other social situations. She has always been shy: in preschool hiding from other children on the playground and feeling rejected when her siblings (we have triplets, two girls and one boy) and friends forgot to explicitly invite her to play.
However, she seemed to be progressing well socially (and super well academically--she is a great reader, halfway through Harry Potter series) through first, second and even half of third grade. We have the triplets in separate classes, but now they do see each other when the classes break apart into levels for reading and math, and on the playground. This last month, though, she goes into hysterics and often can't be forced to go to school. She cries and says she wants to die, and feels ill from the fears. She cites a host of fears: teachers she feels are impatient with her (but who appear, to us, to love her!), anxiety over grades (which are great!), fear of having an embarassing accident; but mostly the feeling of being friendless.
She has reported some minor incidents of unkindness, and we have backed them up with reports from her siblings. There was at least one classmate who criticized the size of her belly (perfectly healthy according to the doctor). She reports being ignored by the "popular" girls she wants to be liked by. She is begging us to home-school her. Should we give in and try to make that arrangement or push her to stay in school? Or, since we plan on getting professional counseling, should we wait for that advice, and what about school in the meantime? Home-schooling would be possible via an online academy, but difficult due to our schedule and the likely jealousy of her siblings!