Making plans with friends
November 19, 2012 4:58 PM Subscribe
How do grownups make plans?
posted by mendel to human relations (21 answers total) 21 users marked this as a favorite
I like socializing with people, especially one-on-one or in small groups, but I don't do it anywhere near as much as I'd like. All sorts of people recommend fixing this by being the one to make plans. But I guess I missed that lesson: I don't know how to ask friends to do something with me.
Not dates, not Big Events, just going to grab a coffee, or my wife and I going out for dinner with another couple, or going to see a concert with someone, or whatever. It even seems weird to say "Hey, want to go grab a coffee sometime" -- but I know the thing about making plans is making specific plans, like "let's go for coffee on Saturday afternoon".
Somehow this seems harder than asking someone out on a date, because at least there's a script for that. How, if I don't already have a routine of meeting up with someone to do a thing, do I ask? How do you make plans with friends?
(In case it matters, I'm a guy.)