Support for the non-academic spouse?
November 19, 2012 3:43 PM Subscribe
How do you manage life with an academic significant other, especially when you have your own career and kids?
posted by anonymous to work & money (12 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
My husband is an academic and I'm curious how other non-academic significant others manage their family dynamics. Thanks to some pressing research needs and applications (he's on the job market), he's working seven days a week and has been for about the past year. We have young children so much of the childcare, in addition to the cleaning, etc. falls on my shoulders. I also work 40 hrs a week at a somewhat demanding job and our kids are in daycare.
While I am okay doing a good deal of this work as he tries to land a professor job, I have a sneaking suspicion that if he (fingers crossed) lands a tenure track position he will need to work even harder. Plus, we'll almost certainly be starting out in a new city with no friends or family nearby.
Needless to say, all of this is stressful. Are there any forums or other resources out there for people in my position? Have any of you mefites been in the same position and have advice to share? I really want to be supportive and my biggest fear is that I end up becoming resentful somewhere down the road.