To send condolences or not?
November 16, 2012 12:04 PM Subscribe
My ex-boyfriend's dad just passed away. What, if anything, should I do?
posted by csox to human relations (24 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
This morning I got a call from a friend letting me know my ex-boyfriend's dad passed away. Should I contact my ex-boyfriend? Should I just feel sad and do nothing? His dad and the rest of his family live about 2000 miles from where he and I live. We broke up about 3 years ago, it wasn't mutual, nor was it amicable. Only in the past year have we been able to be friendly with each other, but I wouldn't go so far as to call us friends. He was very close with his dad, and his dad and I also were close during the time we dated. Part of me wants to send my condolences to him (call? text?), but part of me doesn't want to open any doors back to him (he's never been one to respect boundaries, which led to a lot of...conflict during/after the breakup). Thoughts?