November 15, 2012 10:34 PM Subscribe
If it's true that deep down, most people feel lonely, bored, languid, unsure and/or sad -- and that most people know this -- then why is expressing these feelings, either intermittently or habitually, such a faux pas, taken by others as distasteful, unfriendly and even pathetic?
posted by frankly mister to human relations (36 answers total) 36 users marked this as a favorite
I don't mean people acting grumpy and uncooperative, or standing around complaining to one another, but rather just exhibiting a sort of melancholy. Yes, I know that in order for the world to work there has to be some sort of energetic collective spiritedness, even if it requires "faking it" on the part of most. But the degree to which and frequency with which people are expected to be merry, to be "on," seems excessive. Imagine a party, or any sort of social situation where you're among people that aren't close to you, even a non-social event like the office: you feel compelled to act happy, to impress to have things "together," do you not? Couldn't the business and intercourse of the world still be achieved while allowing more genuine social presentation? Can't one still be "friendly" without smiling so much?