November 15, 2012 4:00 PM Subscribe
How does one go about mediating between estranged lovers?
posted by lilacp to Human Relations (27 answers total)
John and Jane are in love but have hurt each other deeply and, despite the love, have cut each other off out of the hurt (or so the story goes). Jane has no access to John but is trying to reach him, so she has enlisted the help of... let's call her Jen.
Jen is good friends with Jane, but does not know John from Adam. Sorta. However John and Jen are in the same circles, and Jen has access to John, which is why Jane is asking for Jen's help.
Now, my question is, where would Jen begin? My view is that love is between two people and Jen has no business even being in this picture, but let's pretend this is okay. John has shown he is willing to speak with Jen. Jen has asked me what she should do, and I have no idea what to tell her, but I'm curious... 1) Have you ever been in this situation? 2) What would you do if you were Jen/tell Jen if you were me? "Stay out of it" is not an option.