Military Divorce Filter
November 15, 2012 12:13 PM Subscribe
Enlisted Soldier has stopped all financial support, including mortgage payments, utilities and even school lunches for his 2 children.
posted by anon4now to law & government (9 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Many insane details omitted, as he has no compunction against lying to anyone, including in court on the stand.
Friend is a year and a half into divorcing her Army husband. While there was no physical abuse, she currently does have full custody (2 children) and an order of protection against him, which was upheld at a hearing he attended.
He was in the reserves, but on a year long deployment in DC (a few hundred miles from their family home) at the start when she served papers. At the initial arbitration for the temporary (ha!) agreement he claimed that when the deployment ends he would be unemployed. He was spending weekdays on leave at the family home.
The agreement specified his percentage of the mortgage and utilities. Each parent would be responsible for food and minor expenses during their parenting time. He got days until 6 pm and alternate weekends, so for example school lunch would be his responsibility. There was no dollar amount specified that he was responsible for.
Soon after his deployment was over, he became a full time commissioned Army officer, payed at least $96K/year, also stationed in the DC area. (She is employed at less than half that)
He has lied to the court clerk and his command (his own emails and credit card receipts prove it) which has enabled him to avoid setting court dates. His immediate commander is likely involved in the fraud (again, there's evidence)
6 or 7 months ago he stopped paying his portion of the mortgage, and soon after stopped paying utility bills. Even before the protective order was in place he missed most of his weekends, and because he is mainly living in DC he has not been held accountable to pay anything to support his children, not even school lunch. Remember, there was no dollar amount defined in the temporary order.
My friend did write to the base commander, asking how this could be allowed to happen, sending the family home into foreclosure and non support for the children.
It seems that there are thousands being deducted from his pay, which is going to an unknown account. He is claiming that it's going to my friend. On the "skeezy divorce tricks" websites setting up false accounts for this purpose is a common tactic.
What can I, or her family members do? Looking for the regulations and ways to get the command to enforce it, and other advice. Her lawyers, who ARE ex-JAG, have utterly failed her (yes she is trying to get other advice)