Group vacation awkwardness help!
November 14, 2012 2:00 PM Subscribe
How to best deal with my friend inviting someone I don't like to join us on vacation?
posted by snickerdoodle to human relations (30 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I have a core group of 4 friends who I often vacation with. In general, I handle the logistics, book the house, etc., and get reimbursed. It's always been expected that friends/SOs are welcome, and miraculously, we've gone through almost 20 trips without an issue. Until now.
On our last trip, Friend A invited her good friend Q, who subsequently failed to pay her share of expenses. The amount was fairly trivial, and it's possible that A didn't fully communicate that reimbursement was expected, so I just let it slide. However, we're now planning a more elaborate trip, and A just mentioned that Q would like to come. I'd prefer that this not happen, as I would be out far more money if Q again declines to pay me back. Plus the experience has soured me somewhat on Q.
As far as I can tell, I have the following options:
1. Make up an excuse for why Q can't come. (This would be considered very unusual, as we've always been a welcoming group).
2. Tell A that Q was kind of a deadbeat, and that I'm uncomfortable extending an invite to her.
3. Tell A that Q can come, but ask for a deposit beforehand.
Is there another option I'm missing? My priorities here are to preserve my relationship with A (who is sweet and kind and one of two non-family members my toddler asks for by name), and to have a good vacation.