I don't know why she gave him $20,000
November 14, 2012 7:27 AM Subscribe
How do you get back a lot of money from someone you loaned money to if they claim they're broke?
posted by Clotilde to Law & Government (16 answers total)
A new acquaintance of mine, who recently came to Canada from Korea (she is in her early twenties and living with her parents) loaned money to a man over a period of three years; $20,000 -- money SHE was loaned for OSAP. She seems to be a very naive (or trusting) person, in that she kept giving him money; $1000 here, $2000 there. When she asked for it back, he told her (what sounds to me like a lie) that he was broke and needed more money from her to get back the money she loaned him, by hiring lawyers and suing this other guy who owed HIM money.
At this point, she doesn't know what to do -- how to get him to give her the money. (She met this guy over the internet; he apparently taught her therapeutic massage and then they dated briefly. He is from her culture, which doesn't matter to me, but she keeps making a point of it.)
I feel bad for her and want to help her, but I don't know what legal recourse she has. She says she has him on tape admitting that the money is owed. What's the next step? She refuses to tell her parents (she says, "they'll kill me") and now she is looking to me for advice. She wants to get a lawyer to sue him, but I was told by a friend that this probably wouldn't work as it wasn't outright fraud, just a loan.
Any lawyers here know what can be done? It's a really unfortunate situation, and I suspect this guy is not keen to give her any money. (He's in his late thirties.)
(PS. I know her because I am tutoring her in English voluntarily, once a week; she works in the service industry which is where I met her. I was trying to help her get into an English-language program and she recently revealed all this to me and now regularly sends me panicky emails. She seems very, very young for her age.)