Your dick pics are not welcome here, sir!
November 13, 2012 6:30 AM Subscribe
Late last night a professional acquaintance sent me an unsolicited (and cringe inducing) dick pic via text. How do I handle this?
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Let's call this man John. John is a booker for a couple bars in an area near me where I frequently book bands. On top of that, John has in's with a couple of much larger venues outside the state and it benefits the work I do to count him as an acquaintance and professional friend. About 6 months ago I got a hold of him and he has helped me immensely when it comes to gigs for an up-and-coming band I take care of. In short, I really would like to keep this man as a professional acquaintance.
Last night he sent me a dick pic via text. Seriously. The picture was actually of his feet in some slippers and the caption was "Like these new slippers I bought at a garage sale? ;)" but his manhood was totally in view, he was clearly fully naked, and there's no way this was just an accident. John is married and 30 years my elder. Gross.
I did not respond. I had talked to John earlier in the day because there is a huge show coming up this weekend at one of his venues and I wanted to inquire about the ticket situation regarding that. Otherwise, we have not spoken in a month or so. We sent a couple cordial texts back and forth and that was that, so I thought. I do not believe I have EVER given this man the impression this kind of picture was wanted or that this kind of behavior is acceptable to me. I don't feel I've led him on in any way and frankly, I feel like he's assumed that because I have a vagina and he's done me a couple of professional solids, this sort of thing is okay. No. Just fucking no.
My personality is such that if this man were anything other than a professional acquaintance I'd tell him to eat shit, fuck off, and never contact me again and I'd use just those words. I'm appalled by his behavior. Obviously, I'm feeling like I can't say that here.
Again, Ill be seeing John this weekend. I'm covering this show at his venue as press. I'm meeting tons of mutual friends there and we're all planning on having the best time ever. I'll be hanging with the band (one of my favorites) and I don't want this night shit on by some old dude that thinks this is okay.
How do I handle this? I did not respond to the text last night. Should I? If so, what should I say? If I leave it be, what do I say if he brings it up this weekend? How do I temper my disgusted rage over the whole thing and cordially verbalize that "Hey man, that was uncool"?