how to initiate a separation?
November 12, 2012 7:29 PM Subscribe
i'm unhappy in my marriage but my wife is very dependent on me. how do i do this?
posted by saraswati to human relations (22 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
i'll say up front that i've thought a lot about this and i definitely want out of my marriage. the reasons are many and i think unimportant to list because i've already made up my mind. it is probably sufficient to say that there has been no infidelity or abuse, i've just grown away from her. i still care about her as a person so i obviously feel pretty bad about this. my question is: how do i break the news, and how do i make the transition as unshitty as possible for her?
some background: i'm in ontario, canada. we've been married for nearly 3 years. we rushed into marriage. she moved to a new city with me right when we got married so i could take a job. she doesn't work (by choice). i have tried to explain to her that i'm unhappy, which backfired catastrophically and i stupidly backpedaled because i felt bad. my main concern is that this decision (which is entirely my fault) is going to uproot her whole life and destabilize everything.
thanks in advance :-/