Need to find someone in NYC to help look after my Parkinsons-having dad.
November 12, 2012 2:27 PM Subscribe
I'll try to stick to specifically relevant snowflake stuff here.
So, my father is 78 and has Parkinson's, which is compounded by long-standing blood pressure issues that leaves him prone to falling unexpectedly (moreso than a typical Parkinsons patient). He lives in a big loft in the East Village (NYC) that he's lived in for forty years, and has no designs on leaving.
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He has a partner, they've been "together" for about a decade, although they refer to each other more like travel companions than anything romantic. That said, she has been taking care of him throughout his deterioration, and was there for him while he recovered from a fall/injury earlier this year and had to be in inpatient rehab for several months (I visited regularly).
We've had a complicated relationship since I was a teenager, and I am currently living in Atlanta. He can be a stubborn prat most of the time, and I dont think our relationship will ever be particularly wonderful, but it is in my best interest at this point to aid in figuring out a solution. I'd like this not to be a thread about me being a bad son. I'm not.
He's had someone (a friend of a friend) living with him rent-free since July in exchange for looking after him (taking him on walks, making dinner, etc), but it seems now that he's starting to fall more often, and she's having trouble dealing with that and is planning to move out shortly. His partner is going over there today to try to convince her otherwise.
He has medicare, but has exhausted the 'nurse comes in and checks on him' benefits (i'm not sure enough about this situation as I have not been kept in the loop about the details, and have been find with that).
So, he needs someone that can stay with him and not get freaked out by his health and can help him get around and stuff. Ideally we would not have to hire a 24-hour nurse type person, because that is very expensive and he basically seems to function okay other than falling (which has dangers for someone his age entirely unrelated to his disease). However, we are nervous about him falling on the way to the bathroom at 3 in the morning and not having anyone around to get him to the hospital (which is not uncommon for Parkinsons patients)
I guess my question is, what are my options in NYC for this kind of thing. Are there resources for people looking for this kind of situation that are trustworthy? I'm certainly not going to post on craigslist for something like this.