Can I use this as an engagement ring?
November 12, 2012 7:14 AM Subscribe
Is it acceptable to use an old wedding ring (family heirloom, modifications needed) as an engagement ring, and for the actual wedding, pay for the modifications to be done?
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I am preparing to propose to my girlfriend of 3 years. I have her grandmother’s ring. The ring is missing a small stone and the GF has expressed that she would like it plated in something other than gold. I know for a fact she wants it plated.
My plan was to propose with the ring as is, and then pay for the stone and plating to be the actual wedding ring. Does this violate some sort of social faux pas? I am typically quite aloof in these sorts of things and would like to cover all my bases.
Money is not the concern. While I am by no means loaded, the cost of repairs/change wouldn’t break me.
My reasons for wanting to do so are:
1. I feel it would be a neat way to differentiate between the engagement ring and the wedding ring without causing issues with:
2. The GF and I both being very practical people. We both think it rather silly to have an engagement ring that won’t be used after marriage. I know a lot of people fuse the engagement ring or have it altered to the wedding ring anyway, but we wouldn’t be doing so with this engagement ring since she doesn’t want to alter the wedding ring (aside from repair/plating).
Any advice is appreciated.