Thanksgiving with a side of family drama
November 11, 2012 3:50 PM Subscribe
My family's Thanksgiving has been hijacked by unwanted guests. Please help with etiquette so we're all happy.
posted by Cloudberry Sky to human relations (74 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Thanksgiving is also my young son's birthday. I DO NOT want to spend all day cooking and cleaning. I also want him to be the focus. My plan is to decorate for his birthday, have a cake, cook a turkey and BUY everything else already prepared from a lovely local market. Easy prep, eat on paper etc. I want to be able to play with my kid.
My parents are very 'fancy' and traditional and full of themselves, and are not happy with my plans. I rarely stand up to them, but it this case I invited them (our only local family) presented them with my plans, and they're not happy "But what about my green bean casserole? But Dad wants my special pumpkin pie. But eating on paper is tacky." Too bad, Kid and his day come first and it's my house. This morning I was told that a grumpy relative and their SO had invited themselves via my father, and it's a done deal. My husband is furious, my kids are upset, none of us want this to happen. We feel like Kid's birthday and our Thanksgiving has been ruined. It will be awkward and stressful and revolve around grumpy relative. My plans are not appreciated and my mom has already told me all the foods etc that she'll be bringing so that we have a "nice" dinner.
How do I resolve this? We want to cancel the whole thing and take Kid out of town or something, but feelings would be hurt. I don't deal well with that. Options? Ideas? I can't emphasize enough how unpleasant the day will be, and how NOT about Kid it will end up in the present scenario.