"I Want My Two (hundred) Dollars!"
November 11, 2012 3:39 PM Subscribe
My roommate is sweet, but really, really
flaky. I'm usually patient, but really, really
nervous about missing bill payments. Help me figure out how far to escalate a frustrating situation, or whether I'm already pushing it.
posted by EmpressCallipygos to human relations (31 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
"Regina" moved in a couple months ago, and she's very, very flaky -- but really really wants to do well. She offered to pay the security deposit in cash right away when I said she could be my roommate, two months before she even moved in (I told her to hold off, that'd be fine). She's always been on time with rent and utilities - up to this point. (Although it's only been a couple months.)
She had to leave town for work for a while - she left the middle of last month, and then will be back the first week of December. Initially we talked about me just having the place to myself and she'd pay me some money up front, but then she had a computer crap out and she got a subletter. However, she said she would pay me for the utilities before she left; then, she said she would have to wait and mail me a check from where she was working.
She CLAIMS to have done that. I waited a couple weeks and texted her that I never got it. I heard nothing. Sent her another text. Nothing. A week later I sent a third one and she finally responded, saying she'd send another check. Nothing. I waited another week, called and got her voicemail; texted her, emailed her. Nothing. I texted her offering to do this through Paypal. She only responded via text to say that where she is, the phone receptoin isn't good.
I texted her again to ask about what she thought about Paypal. She expressed surprise that I hadn't gotten either of the checks. I said no, I hadn't, can we do paypal? I would send her an invoice. She said okay.
I sent an invoice on Paypal on Wednesday. Nothing.
i texted her again today asking WTF, I was now down to only 20 bucks to live on for a week until I got paid. She said she would pay me today. Apologized. I re-sent the paypal invoice and texted her to let me know if she had any trouble. She said "ok."
No money yet, though. I have been floating her nearly two hundred dollars for the utilities for over a month now.
The reasons I haven't told her to fuck off already are:
* She really is just that spacey. It is entirely within the realm of possibility that she has been consistently just plain forgetting all this time.
* She may be having some monetary trouble that she's afraid to tell me about. Her job is in a creative field and money isn't always paid out on a timely basis. I would be understanding if she would just TELL me that; I'd get a loan for a week from a friend or something if that were the case.
* I can get a little over-wrought about money myself, and I'm never really sure whether something that I THINK is an emergency really IS an emergency. In the past, when someone's owed me money, I've sometimes turned into the paperboy from Better Off Dead about it.
But I'm stuck with a rent check about to bounce (I've told her that) and am not sure exactly what I should do here. What are the next steps to escalate this? If any?