Yeah, I get it already!!!
November 9, 2012 3:27 PM Subscribe
How to deal with a overly opinionated coworker/friend.
posted by hellameangirl to human relations (36 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
So I've been at a new pace of work for 8 months now. My office consists of 4 people and so its pretty intimate--like we usually have lunch together. I like everyone for the most part but one woman is waaayyy too opinionated and tells me what she thinks of my personal choices every chance she gets. One example is what I eat--I'm not a super healthy eater like she is (shes gluten-free, vegetarian, quinoa-munching type) but at the same time I am NOT overweight nor have any health problems, plus I eat small portions so I'm not that worried about my diet. Yet she continually judges me when I eat a salami sandwich or a fast food burrito. I try to laugh it off, like when she says "I can't believe eat that!" I say "really? I've worked here for months, you should know this is how I eat" with a fake smile.
What is really hard for me though is she never wants kids and is very vocal about how *everyone* needs to stop having kids cuz its destroying the earth and what not. This breaks my heart because I'm not a parent but have longed to be especially in the last few years. I'm 33 and feeling the tick-tock and sometimes worry that its not in the cards for me. I agree with her that we humans need to be concerned about our carbon footprint and I think its great that SHE realizes she shouldn't be a parent, but its crazy to expect that the whole country (or planet for that matter) is just going to collectively agree to stop breeding.
For the record I brought up in conversation early on that I want a family before I knew how strongly she is against. Since then I don't bring it up and try to avoid the topic but somehow it comes up in other ways through unrelated topics. Sometimes she brings it up, like she recently saw a movie and demanded that we all watch it because "it'll make you not want to have kids". My other co-workers don't seem phased but I find it incredibly disrespectful.
I've contemplated writing her an email letting her know that I think its unproffesional for her to express such isolating opinions, but it makes me very nervous. Should I just learn to deal?