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November 9, 2012 1:42 AM Subscribe
Secretly removed as an executor by my father: how should I feel about this?
posted by tulipwool to Human Relations (30 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
My father has always favoured my younger sister, though he's only admitted it openly in recent years. I find it hurtful, but have tried to keep a good relationship going anyway.
Four or five years ago my dad asked my sister and I to both be executors of his will, and we went to his lawyer and signed some papers. No major family upsets have happened with him since and my sister and I, who were very frosty with each other at the time, have recently been a bit more friendly.
Then my sister's son got drunk and told my husband that dad has secretly redone his will so only my sister is now an executor. My nephew didn't say whether I and my children are cut out of the will altogether or not.
I know there is absolutely no way to 'clear the air' by raising this with dad. Am I right in feeling that this is supposed to be a metaphorical kick in the face from beyond the grave? I was never supposed to know until after he dies, hopefully many years away (he's in his seventies). I feel it's one last attempt to point out how little he cares about me compared to my sister. Is there any way this isn't a deliberate attempt to hurt?