How do I tell my friend with benefits that I have feelings for him?
November 8, 2012 1:07 PM Subscribe
How do I (or do I?!) tell my friend-who-recently-turned-friend-with-benefits that I have developed romantic feelings for him?
posted by anonymous to human relations (25 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
We were strictly platonic friends for about 2.5 years, for the last 3 months or so things have turned sexual, affectionate, and flirty at times.
We hang out together as much as we can when possible (he lives out of town) We enjoy a lot of the same movies, music, social activities, etc, and laugh and enjoy it's other's company. I'd like for us to become more than this seemingly (but unspoken) friends with benefits situation.
Out in public at concerts or at bars we hold and dance with each other. Most of these flirtations, and kissing, having sex, etc though have occurred when we had or are drinking alcohol. We are both self-admittedly slightly shy and again used to be just friends until only recently... navigating this is predicament is difficult for both parties right? I don't want to scare him off by making him think I am about to become a "stage-5-clinger" because I simply have a crush.
Looking for any insight on how I should approach this situation, tell it to him straight, or try suggesting my feelings in other more subtle ways. Is it at all possible that he likes me and just isn't saying anything? Lend me your knowledgable words.