Dealing with ALL THE THINGS
November 8, 2012 7:47 AM Subscribe
We broke up. The lease is ending. I'm ready to move. There's one big problem.
posted by sockpuppet yo to human relations (47 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
He won't come get his stuff! It's been eight months since he moved out without a word, three since I finally woke up and realized that life could be so much better not together and finally cut the cord. But his things are still in the house and I'm starting to panic about what to do with them.
- There are a variety of items, from large (tool chests, etc.) to smaller things. I've boxed everything that can be boxed. Total it's maybe a small studio apartment's worth of stuff. Probably nothing extremely valuable.
- There is a vintage car that I don't feel comfortable driving.
- There's nothing big/valuable left with disputable ownership (he took most of that stuff without discussion. I am fine with that.)
- He is living in a temporary situation near by without a lot of storage space.
- It's become really clear to me over the last few months that he's not a very reasonable person. I do not trust him to handle this in any way that makes life not-shitty for me.
- I would rather not totally screw him, which throwing his stuff out or onto the street would probably do.
- I have been asking him for months to deal with this or at least tell me what his plan is. Nothing ever happens. And now there's been radio silence for a week.
I'm moving on Saturday, the lease ends on Thursday the 15th. I have Sunday and Monday off and was planning to tie up loose ends and clean the old place those days.
So far my plan is to get a storage unit, pay for one month, put his things in it, and mail him the key. Is this a sound plan? Is there any way I could not have to deal with it physically myself - like, can I get movers to move things into a storage unit? Any other ideas to get him to respond or take care of it himself? And what do I do about his car?