How do I settle this debt?
November 7, 2012 11:53 AM Subscribe
Parents bought a $1.8k plane ticket for my friend and now she's agreeing to wire back $900 into my account. She had agreed to pay back the full price initially. How do I get the rest of the money back?
posted by lyinlion to human relations (34 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
Over the summer, we went on a vacation together, tickets bought by my mother (whom I assumed would get the cheapest prices from her agent...but this wasn't true). My friend had agreed to pay the money back -- I'd seen the check, everything was ready, but she didn't give it to me on the basis that the money wouldn't be in the account for a couple of weeks. While on vacation, we had a massive falling out -- the ticket price my mom had gotten for her was too expensive and she couldn't afford it, and she was angry at me for not trying to foot some of the bill given that my mom had paid for my ticket entirely. I ended up leaving the country a little over 1/3 of my projected stay time because it got too bad and went back home. We are no longer friends, nor do I plan on trying to make that friendship happen again (although all my friends say it should and will).
When my friend finally got back to the States, she bought another ticket going back to aforementioned vacationcountry (she's planning on working and living there for most of the coming year), and her argument was that her roundtrip ticket was only $800 and she was furious that my mom's ticket price was so expensive. Furthermore, paying for housing and gifts for the owners of the house we were staying at were also being tacked on (I had agreed to this). Here's the deal, though: ticket prices to that country over the summer are IMMENSELY more expensive than fall or winter prices and that's just how that is -- I went on to all major online ticket outlets and found the cheapest price, bought 8 months before summer, was $1450. Furthermore, I only lived at the house for 1/3 of the projected time, and rent/housing should be a minimal add on. I did all the math for how much she owes me and it comes up to a generous minimum of $1290...so she's cinching me $300.
Now here's where it gets even more complicated: she's always had trouble with money, but she's always repaid her debts. She's not one to fleece someone. The thing that pissed her off the most about the entire situation was how selfish she thought I was vs. how generous she was, despite my parents having supported me entirely in college. She pretty much told me I was obligated to cover for her ticket price because I was so privileged and "didn't understand what it was like to be poor" -- false, I grew up on food stamps as well, except my parents raised me as their own whereas her parents neglected her as a child. There's all this complex emotional drama that goes into this that I'm not willing to mess with, and also there's absolutely no way I can go to her family about this stuff because they're going through hard times.
Oh, also my mom is trying to sue her but she says that she's unafraid, debt collectors won't go after her for $900. She's currently in another country and won't be back for several months.