I Made A Mistake; Will He Ever Forgive Me?
November 7, 2012 8:12 AM Subscribe
I borrowed a friend's car and let it run out of gas during the super shitty gas crisis we're having in NYC, now my friend is really mad at me and even though it's for a good reason and I tried to make it up to him he still won't talk to me. I want to try to make this right. What do I need to do?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (37 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I had just started a job the week prior to the hurricane and was getting anxious about not being able to show up for work. My friend, who lives nearby to me and was already in the city, offered me a favor by allowing me to borrow his car to get to the city via the ferry in Weehakwen. I left in the morning thinking there was enough gas to get me there and then get us back, but I very badly misjudged - I got stuck in terrible traffic for 3 hours and burned through most of the gas in the tank, and then, unable to find a place to top off, I panicked, parked the car at the ferry terminal, and went to the city, thinking I might be able to get gas once I was in midtown. This was very much not a good call on my part, and I am terribly ashamed about this.
I was also wrong - no gas in the city either. When I broke the news to him he got very angry, understandably.
The next day we took the ferry back to NJ and then started driving home. We actually did almost make it back, but ran out of gas about 20 minutes away from home. He got even more pissed, but managed to reach his wife, who sent one of their neighbors down to rescue us with a couple gallons of gas.
I've spoken to him since this weekend and apologized again, and he's told me not to worry about it as it wasn't the end of the world, but things definitely do not feel the same between us.
I feel horrible and ashamed and like I've really messed things up. I feel like he no longer trusts me and won't want to be friends with me anymore, and won't want me to be a part of his or his family's lives anymore. And I wouldn't blame him -the gas shortage problem is becoming an issue state-wide after the storm. It was a very careless mistake and I really should have known better.
How can I fix this? Is it possible for me to somehow make this up to him in some way? If so, how?