Counter culture shock and its bag of tricks
November 6, 2012 2:17 PM Subscribe
Have you been through counter culture shock? Any tips would be appreciated. More so if you come from the arts/creative field.
posted by kitsuloukos to human relations (12 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I came back about 3 months ago from a student exchange in a country very different from where I live currently. I'm realizing now that I might be having more problems adjusting back than I thought I did.
Initially, when coming back, I felt very frustrated at times with some things people do here, or nostalgic for the country I had left ("In [x], it's so much better, they do [y] this way"). I thought I was doing better for a while now because I no longer feel that comparison so strongly, there are tons of things I appreciate from being here, and I have a busy life with a lot of projects that excite me.
However, I'm realizing that maybe I'm not doing so good? I feel very introverted, not as self-confident, I catch myself having wierd protective body language like tucking my thumbs in my palms like a baby, and it's very strange, because none of this is concious. It's not as though there's something specific that's bothering me, and so I don't really know what to do because I can't explain specifically why I feel this way.
I have to say, I think some of the incomfort was there a bit *before* I left on the exchange (some attitudes I find aggressive or disturbing in my country and such), and I think I also happened to go to somewhere surprisingly very suited to me (the place in question actually has the reverse reputation for western people), so I'm wondering what proportion of this is me and what proportion of it is something about where I am that I can't do anything about?
I've never felt so loose, open, comfortable and myself than I was there. I don't understand how this crept away a bit. I know it's something I can do something about, because I feel that you always have control on how you react to things. And I don't feel conciously not myself or anything, my thoughts are very clear, I just don't feel like I'm able to act accordingly.
About the arts comment: I'm in the arts field, and this trip was very helpful in getting rid of all confusion on where I want to go in my work right now. I feel that those interests are quite contrary or not encouraged where I am right now and finding myself feeling pulled in different directions, and having trouble pursuing my own developments, because of that. I'm in art school, too, so I get even more bombarded with a multitude of directions to take, which is confusing sometimes even if it's very interesting.
Has anyone been through something similar before? Any tips? Should I just let time pass again?
Thank you in advance for any advice by the way, it's very appreciated!