Impending name change and the resulting identity crisis.
November 3, 2012 11:52 AM Subscribe
I'm getting re-married. How do I juggle a professional identity with my soon-to-be old name and a new name identity everywhere else?
posted by _Mona_ to Human Relations (6 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I'm about to get re-married (yay!). I'll need to keep using my current name professionally because I'm far too established with (online and otherwise) to change it. I'm not thrilled by this but, logistically, it would be just a nightmare.
Socially, I want to take my new husband's name because I like it. I also don't want to have my ex's last name while married to someone else. I never really liked my current name anyway but only hung on to it so my kids and I would have the same last name. In retrospect, I realize it wasn't the right decision, but I digress.
Is it better to legally change my name to Mona Newname or legally stay Mona Ex'sname? I know name changes are a hassle, but I don't mind that part. What concerns me is having to juggle two identities. How workable is it? I really don't want to be known as Mona Ex'sname any longer and anywhere I don't have to be, but is it worth legally changing it on my driver's license, etc when it's still going to be a huge part of my life?
I've read previous threads on change names but none seem to address this particular aspect of a name change.
1) I considered hyphenating but the resulting name would be unwieldy and I would really like to shed my ex's name entirely wherever possible.
2) New husband and I won't be having kids so that's a non-issue.
3) New husband can't change his name for professional reasons either so coming up with a blend won't work.
To be clear, I have no animosity about my ex or his name, I just don't like it.