Shut UP, MOM! YOU DONT UNDERSTAND MY ART.
November 3, 2012 8:37 AM Subscribe
How do I tell my mom to lay off my appearance in a lighthearted way?
posted by kpht to Human Relations (42 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
So I'm 28. I have a house, two kids, husband, and we own a bike shop. I just graduated with a BA after 6 years of plugging away at it while breastfeeding and working. Since I now work for myself, I dyed my hair pink, got a lip ring a few years back, and just pierced my nose. I amassed 5 or so tattoos from ages 18-20, then I stopped until last year, when I got a few more. I have a plan to get another tattoo of very neon colorful stars across the front of my chest near my armpit.
My mother was very upset (like, cried when she saw it) with the last tattoo I got, which was our bike logo on my arm, just low enough to be seen with a short sleeve shirt on. The rest of my tattoos, including the one I have planned, are covered up easily in professional settings. I have no doubt I'll one day get a professional office job again, so I don't want to tank my job prospects, but also want to look the way I want to look for now. Shoot, all the kids at preschool think I'm AWESOME.
She just sent me a facebook message that said "for the love of god, please think about stopping your body decorations! you have enough!"
I need some lighthearted comebacks. She knows full well I'm an adult. I'm of the mindset that it's no longer her business, she ought to be glad I'm happy and living the life I love and not making meth in her basement.
So far I said "When you stop posting political things on facebook, I'll stop getting tattoos!" (Ironically we're both huge flaming liberals.) I also sent her the xkcd ball pit comic.
Anything else like that I can keep in the arsenal for these arguments? She allllways does this (she nagged me about education for years), and usually I finally get to a breaking point and yell at her, and then she cries and just says she cares too much. Infuriating! So being strict with her doesn't work - the best I can do is just joke about it and then drop it. She's not unbearable, just really irritating about it.