Toilet training dramas. Daughter hates potty.
October 31, 2012 5:06 PM Subscribe
Daughter SCREAMS when I try to put her on the potty to pooh. She knows she is about to pooh, and I know it too, but when I try to put her on the potty she completely freaks out. Not sure what to do. Details within.
posted by beccyjoe to Health & Fitness (40 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
So, I read "oh crap potty training" by Jamie Glowacki. It had worked for a couple of friends, and I really liked the idea behind it. My daughter is 23 months and we started yesterday. I had been talking about it for a couple of weeks, how we were going to get rid of all her nappies, she was going to pee and pooh in the potty like a big girl etc etc. She seemed into it.
Yesterday was pretty rough, we stayed home, she was naked all day, I watched her and attempted to catch the pee, which I did successfully a couple of times. She didn't like being put on the potty but I managed to do it. after a few hours she was sitting on it willingly, and I thought, "Great, progress!" I managed to completely catch her first pooh, and she screamed while I was doing it, but then seemed pleased after it was done and talked about it later with what seemed like pride.
TODAY, she has simply refused to sit on the potty at all. By about 9.30 I could tell she needed to pooh, she was letting me know. But she would NOT sit on the potty. When I tried to put her there, she screamed and struggled and wouldn't sit down. Then she just kept moping around and crying because she knew she needed to pooh but refused to go on the potty. I told her we'd read her new book and that she could watch Charlie and Lola if she sat down. she wouldn't. Then she started really crying and I knew she was about to pooh. I tried to put her on the potty again but she just lost it, crying hysterically and struggling against me. She ended up poohing all over me. and then she seemed horrified at what she had done. it was awful. I had to go and clean myself off and couldn't comfort her straight away, and she was left in the lounge room screaming while I was in the bathroom taking my clothes off. It was awful!
I picked her up as soon as I could and held her and told her it was okay. she cried for quite a while and then fell asleep in my arms, she was so worn out from being so upset.
Anyway, I have no idea how to proceed. I don't want to go back to nappies because I know she's ready for toilet training, she CAN do it, she's just afraid, or something. in general she's a really smart kid, great language, good at expressing herself and knowing what she wants, etc. She is happy and well-adjusted, not in any way disturbed or strange, mostly loves life, gets along well with other kids, fairly independent, capable with lots of things, blah blah blah.
But where do I go from here? I feel she is just going to be more and more traumatised by the potty, but I know she can do it.
Any advice greatly appreciated.
(oh and I tried the Jamie Glowacki forum but it just didn't seem as helpful as mefi.)