How to control (choose) when I cry and when I remain stoic.
October 30, 2012 8:35 PM Subscribe
I want to be able to control when I become emotional and when I hold it together. Ever since meeting my first Russian orphans in 1999, my heart has grown progressively more tender and I "come to tears" very easily. In the Russian culture, a man crying is extremely rare and frankly not at all understood by the typical Russian young person. Once, during a tearful conversation with a precious girl I met in '99 and consider as a daughter, she actually asked my interpreter, "Is there something wrong with him? Maybe a neurological or psychiatric illness of some sort?" Can someone suggest how I can develop mastery over my emotional expression? A book? A therapist? Hypnosis?
posted by papaheller to Society & Culture (9 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
I want to develop the ability to speak touching words without losing control and becoming a distraction to my message (like a minister would want to do when presiding over a funeral). This isn't about being embarrassed or concerned about what others will think of me. I want to be the master of my emotions when it matters. Thanks community:)