Yay, it's a baby sleep question! About the best little three month-old this side of anywhere! (Basically, my wife and I are mightily confused about where our boy is now and where we need to start planning to get him.) (Picture of pulkes inside, of course. If it's good enough for a cat question it's good enough for us.)
Look at this picture
, and look at those pulkes!
Ok, so I know this is a controversial topic. I'm happy to hear a lot of perspectives, but my wife and I are psychotherapists who understand attachment and the ability to self-soothe, so we are likely moving toward some version of Cry It Out.
Basically, right now our three month old goes to sleep at ~7, after being fed by his mother and rocked (almost) to sleep by me in a routine that we really like. We put him to sleep in one of those automatic swings, where he sleeps for a couple of hours until we go to bed around 9:30, when we move him without incident or wake up to the bassinet beside our bed. He wakes a couple of times (1am, 330am) to feed, and then wakes around 5am, when I rock him to sleep again and put him in the swing while I get ready for work. He typically wakes for good between 7 and 8. He naps through the day, but basically only as needed, with no set nap times. He only falls asleep with motion: being walked in the Bjorn or in the stroller, being danced to Israelites by Desmond Dekker.
So, where are we? The books talk about naps, which Ollie does not take in any regular fashion. The books talk about sleep routine, but his routine is of the kind they all deplore. The books talk about sleep training, which he is kind of getting, but maybe of the wrong sort.
Do we need to adjust his routine? Does he go to sleep too early? Do we need to set nap times and put him down in his crib? Do we need to stop rocking him almost to sleep? Do we need to move him to a crib in his own room?
(If it matters, he's almost exclusively breast-fed, although he does get a couple of bottles of breast milk a week. As his pictures show, he's a good eater! We aren't opposed to a pacifier, but he hasn't really taken to one, and he's started to suck his thumb and the rest of his hand, but it doesn't seem to promote sleep because he's too interested in it to fall asleep doing it.)