Overly attentive girlfriend.
October 26, 2012 9:14 PM Subscribe
How do I ask my girlfriend to dial it back a notch without making her feel rejected?
posted by anonymous to human relations (21 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
I just started a new relationship in the past month, and everything is going well, except for a minor problem-- she wants me around all the time. She wants me to be at her house every night, and when I'm not there, she is texting me or calling me constantly. She gets upset if i stop texting her before I go to sleep. It's starting to wear me out, but all I really need is a little bit of alone time. I like staying at her place most nights, but I need to be able to stay a night at my place without having an argument about it. It hasn't really been a source of arguments yet, but I can see it being one down the road. How can I ask her to dial it back a little bit without her seeing it as rejection? I really just need time to myself sometimes when I can play video games or read the Internet or something without the constant pings asking what I'm doing, etc.
Probably relevant detail, I'm in my mid thirties, she is in her early twenties. Also, she just moved to this city from another state and so doesn't really have many local friends and no family here.