Please help me get this flea problem solved
October 25, 2012 6:29 AM Subscribe
How would you handle this? I need to get my roommate to: 1) accept there are fleas in the house and that his dog has a really bad case of them; 2) accept that if there are fleas, that it's a problem that we need to try to fix; 3) treat his own room.
posted by anonymous to human relations (29 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
Two months ago I moved into this house. My two roommates have lived together and been friends a long time (but not a couple). I am a few years past college and they are in their 40's or 50's. I'm female and they are a man and a woman.
My dog is on two flea preventatives: Program and Frontline. Shortly after I moved in, I noticed my dog itching a lot. I found a flea on him, figured he picked it up somewhere random, and just gave him a bath, figuring the preventatives would take care of the rest. I have now gone through 3 or four cycles of finding fleas on him, bathing him, vacuuming and treating my room and the public areas of the house, giving him his flea medications on schedule or sometimes a bit early... then finding ever more fleas on him.
By the second time this happened though, my dog had been chewing his skin, creating wounds. He's allergic to fleas. That is the point where I brought this up with the male roommate. I said to him: "I just wanted to let you know that I've been finding fleas on my dog. He has a flea allergy, so that's why he's been chewing his skin." He emphatically replied: "No, your dog doesn't have fleas and he doesn't have a flea allergy."
I was not expecting that answer at all so I didn't know what to say. I was confused and said, "Well, I keep finding fleas on him and his flea allergy was diagnosed by his vet." My roommate said: "Dogs always have fleas. And maybe your vet said that, but I know why he chews his skin, it's because he doesn't like to be alone." I said I didn't think that was why since in the last place we lived he was alone the same amount of time and this didn't happen. But I didn't know what else to say, so I dropped the topic.
Since then I have brought up finding more fleas on my dog, and his skin chewing, several more times, and my roommate keeps saying, "Yup, he's been alone a lot today, he only chews when he's alone, I've never seen him chew in front of me." I find it a bit intimidating and hard to respond to when he makes statements like this. I don't think he's trying to be intimidating on purpose at all though.
My roommate has a dog, and his dog has been scratching like CRAZY, way more than my dog. I think that my dog is continuing to pick up fleas from this dog, and possibly from the carpet in my roommate's room. I do think that this dog is on a flea preventative, but it might not be effective enough by itself. And if the fleas are in the carpet they will just keep reproducing. The female roommate also has a dog, and her dog is scratching a lot more than usual now too. I asked her if she had seen any fleas on him, and she said no; she also said he just got a dose of Frontline.
How would you handle this? What more can I say? This flea problem is really, really bothering me and making me very uncomfortable, and it's making my dog continually uncomfortable too. I was woken up multiple times in the night last night by crazy amounts of scratching, and I am exhausted at the idea of another round of baths, at the idea of spending hours combing him with the flea comb, and so on...