How to tell parents you're not ever coming home?
October 24, 2012 1:22 PM Subscribe
How does one tell dysfunctional parents that you're not planning on ever coming home after being away for a work contract (i.e. a supposedly temporary absence is going to turn permanent)?
posted by glache to Health & Fitness (20 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
The situation is this. One parent is truly toxic. I've worked out damned if I do and damned if I don't with this one, so whatever. The other is co-dependent on the toxic one (and me and my brother to a lesser degree) so in that sense is dysfunctional.
How can I tell the co-dependent parent that no, I'm travelling permanently when not other working, and then how I can tell both of them diplomatically so that the toxic one doesn't chuck all the stuff in my room out? (there's really only one bag of souvenirs from my various contracts that I want to keep, but I suspect it'll be the first one to be targeted if I don't tell them right).
Should I be honest and state I'm travelling and not coming home, or should I just lie that I'm finding work continuously, or be vague about whether I'm exactly travelling or working at a particular point in time, or even something else?